When accepting advice from non-professionals, please at least consider the source. We know that most of our friends mean well, if they are our true friends, but some of the advice they give us is biased. Regardless of the situation our friends usually want to see us win.
When discussing relationships problems with a friend is when they are most culpable. It is difficult to be impartial and give sound advice when you’re only willing to weigh one side of the equation. In order to give the best advice one needs to impartially look at both sides. Where the shoe fits… that is where the gavel should fall; however, out of loyalty to our friends we may unintentionally curve our advice to please them.
From one guy giving advice to his buddy, many times it has nothing to do with what is right, good, or decent. He could even be dead wrong. A macho pal usually stands by his buddy regardless. Perhaps they think it's possible to find another mate, but not another great friend. So guess who gets the ax? This may even include wives as well as girl friends. Guys tend to stick together just as the gals.
Are we really doing our friends a true service when we take their side knowing they are wrong? The real answer is "no", because they don’t get a chance to correct a fault in them. Many friends will watch their buddies go through several failed relationships for the same reason and never tell them the truth.
If you knew your pal was a constant womanizer and cheated on his wife frequently, what position should you take? If this buddy had been married and divorced several times and continued with the same habit, are you being a good friend by taking their side?
I once knew an associate/friend that had a thing for under-aged girls. He was a schoolteacher. At the time I said nothing, even though I disagreed with what he was doing. I knew he was both morally and legally wrong.
You hear of such teachers on the news occasionally going to jail and serving serious time for their crime. In essence my loyalty to a friend made me culpable to his crime. (Aiding and abetting!)
At the time I was young. Even knowing it was wrong I didn’t quite know how to handle the situation so I just ignored it. After a while he left town so the problem was "out of sight and out of mind" for me. Whenever I hear of a teacher getting busted for this crime I think of this friend.
This is a character issue. Condoning illegal or immoral behavior is a reflection upon us. What if one of those under-aged girls had been my daughter or granddaughter? Does it make it less immoral or illegal when they are strangers? Absolutely not!
Our character defines us. It specifies who you are at the core. At the time I was willing to turn a blind eye to things that were seriously wrong. Who amongst us doesn't know people who have done wrong things? How do we respond in the face of culpability?
Back in the 60s many of my generation were fairly heavy into experimenting with all sorts of illegal drugs. We were drinking and driving, or high on something more lethal than alcohol. Weren’t we all a bit culpable to a degree at some point in our lives?
When we have friends or relatives that egregiously violate our moral boundaries yet fail to mention it to the proper authorities, does our silence help them? These are tough calls. The Unabomber’s brother was the one that turned him in to the authorities.
When young, perhaps there were many things that you ignored even knowing they were wrong. Even to this day we may do that for friends and family thinking we are on their side. Ask yourself, is it right to condone wrongful behavior?
The truth of the matter is there are morals and laws in a civilized society. We know the difference between right and wrong. When we allow wrong things to happen and do nothing to report it, this is a direct reflection upon our character.
The least you should consider doing when you know people are committing illegal and immoral behaviors is to tell them they’re wrong. If they choose to cut you off as a friend you would have only lost an immoral or illegal person. That is really your gain.
However, if this person is a family member you might want to give them another chance to correct the situation before reporting them to the proper authorities or family elders.
Some choices in life are tougher than others. This is a really tough call. Being a true friend should include doing what is morally and ethically right for them regardless of the possible outcome of the friendship. All advice is not good advice…FYI!
Friday, October 22, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
Finding Common Grounds
Our society is built upon polar opposites. Along with the good you have things that are not good. Many aren’t even well intended. Your awareness of this dichotomy may assist you in managing life with all its complications.
To bring this topic home we realize the seeds from which the world was founded upon were not shaped by perfection. We know that to be fact. There are many dark stains upon mankind’s history.
Although we cannot undo what was done, we can redo what we decide to act upon. Understanding the polar opposites can help us in intentionally making choices that we know to be formed by positive intentions, rather than negative.
Life is not fair. If you think things are based upon equality, freedom and justice for all you’re living in a false dichotomy. Most of our expectations come from things our guardians taught us in order to help us paint a rosier-than-reality-picture. It is only natural for them to want what’s best for their children. Telling them the truth would not paint the best of pictures.
Depending upon how and where you grew up you may know very little about the dark side. Even though you may have read about it or seen it in news stories, you can only know it by being there. Darkness is not something that most would want to knowingly experience by choice, unless they are naïve or ignorant. Perhaps the youth would also fall into that group of takers.
In the real world you have a mixture of light and darkness. These two poles somewhat balance each other. Even though you may experience more of one than the other, both exist simultaneously. The fact that you are not experiencing certain things does not in any way refute them. There is a lot of ugliness in our society along with greatness.
The dark side of reality is very powerful. It needs no help standing alone. Even knowing this fact we still have certain entities that cater toward the weaknesses in people. They exploit those who may be sick or have a low threshold of resistance in their human nature. This sect doesn’t need any help realizing their full evil intentions. On the contrary they may need help in restraining from doing their dastardly deeds. Unfortunately most such individuals aren’t willing to come forth to get help for fear of exposing themselves.
With that in mind why do you suppose we have reality shows promoting to the lowest level of human nature? Show producers actually advertise to sick individuals in order to get them to come on their shows. How sick is that?
I know this is a free society but what possible good comes out of airing such vile shows. Are they selling to those who are just as sick or to those who call themselves “normal?” Obviously they have high enough ratings in order to stay on air otherwise the stations would drop them. They must have connections in high places otherwise they couldn’t pollute our airways so easily with such garbage.
Is there any level of decency we’re willing to adopt? Are there any morality lines we might entertain? Does free speech and choice mean you can do anything no matter how offensive it may be to others?
I’m just curious!
I understand that evil people have rights, but don’t those who draw morality lines have rights as well? Can’t we at least keep certain things out of the view of fragile minds? (OUR KIDS)
Sick people need no help promoting their sickness? Children need no help crossing over boundary lines. Don’t we have the right to restrict certain things from the public access?
Years ago parents set rather strong moralistic lines that children had to obey or face strong consequences. The children didn’t like it then but it steered them into a righteous pathway. Although they may have fallen off track at least they knew there was a line. We were those children. I’m not sure children of today understand boundaries.
How do we find common lines we can respect today? What one likes others may hate. What greatly appeal to one may be offensive to others. How do we find peace in the middle? This is the twenty-million-dollar question? What do you think?
To bring this topic home we realize the seeds from which the world was founded upon were not shaped by perfection. We know that to be fact. There are many dark stains upon mankind’s history.
Although we cannot undo what was done, we can redo what we decide to act upon. Understanding the polar opposites can help us in intentionally making choices that we know to be formed by positive intentions, rather than negative.
Life is not fair. If you think things are based upon equality, freedom and justice for all you’re living in a false dichotomy. Most of our expectations come from things our guardians taught us in order to help us paint a rosier-than-reality-picture. It is only natural for them to want what’s best for their children. Telling them the truth would not paint the best of pictures.
Depending upon how and where you grew up you may know very little about the dark side. Even though you may have read about it or seen it in news stories, you can only know it by being there. Darkness is not something that most would want to knowingly experience by choice, unless they are naïve or ignorant. Perhaps the youth would also fall into that group of takers.
In the real world you have a mixture of light and darkness. These two poles somewhat balance each other. Even though you may experience more of one than the other, both exist simultaneously. The fact that you are not experiencing certain things does not in any way refute them. There is a lot of ugliness in our society along with greatness.
The dark side of reality is very powerful. It needs no help standing alone. Even knowing this fact we still have certain entities that cater toward the weaknesses in people. They exploit those who may be sick or have a low threshold of resistance in their human nature. This sect doesn’t need any help realizing their full evil intentions. On the contrary they may need help in restraining from doing their dastardly deeds. Unfortunately most such individuals aren’t willing to come forth to get help for fear of exposing themselves.
With that in mind why do you suppose we have reality shows promoting to the lowest level of human nature? Show producers actually advertise to sick individuals in order to get them to come on their shows. How sick is that?
I know this is a free society but what possible good comes out of airing such vile shows. Are they selling to those who are just as sick or to those who call themselves “normal?” Obviously they have high enough ratings in order to stay on air otherwise the stations would drop them. They must have connections in high places otherwise they couldn’t pollute our airways so easily with such garbage.
Is there any level of decency we’re willing to adopt? Are there any morality lines we might entertain? Does free speech and choice mean you can do anything no matter how offensive it may be to others?
I’m just curious!
I understand that evil people have rights, but don’t those who draw morality lines have rights as well? Can’t we at least keep certain things out of the view of fragile minds? (OUR KIDS)
Sick people need no help promoting their sickness? Children need no help crossing over boundary lines. Don’t we have the right to restrict certain things from the public access?
Years ago parents set rather strong moralistic lines that children had to obey or face strong consequences. The children didn’t like it then but it steered them into a righteous pathway. Although they may have fallen off track at least they knew there was a line. We were those children. I’m not sure children of today understand boundaries.
How do we find common lines we can respect today? What one likes others may hate. What greatly appeal to one may be offensive to others. How do we find peace in the middle? This is the twenty-million-dollar question? What do you think?
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Room for cream?
During my daily affairs I find myself consulting a few friends and associates about matters of life. They would call me their life-coach but that is not one of my official titles. Since I study, read, and write into this genre often it’s easy for me to share my advice about many subjects concerning daily living. One such topic I found myself sharing with several people was about leaving some room in their cup.
You coffee drinkers out there may have been asked by the attendant serving your freshly brewed cup of coffee; “Room for cream?” Rather than filling the cup all the way up to the brim they might ask if you want to leave room on top in order to add condiments to spruce up your coffee.
In that light I share my concept of dealing with many things that we allow to add unnecessary stress into our lives. As you may realize by now, life happens! When least expected certain things happen that throw us off our game. They seemingly come out of nowhere. Such is the nature of life.
Even though we might plan as much as possible for “what could happen,” inevitably things will happen that we didn’t plan for nor expect. Since they catch us with our guard down we are impacted more forcefully than if we were prepared. It is one thing to get hit hard when you are expecting to take a blow but another one when it catches you totally by surprise.
If someone hit you in your stomach while you were braced to receive the blow it would not impact you as badly as if you were hit with no advance warning. This is what life does to us occasionally. It hits us with things when we least expect them. Consequently, we are not prepared. For this very reason I suggest that you “leave room in your cup for BS. (I’ll let you define BS.)
Imagine that you are a cup with a certain capacity. Once your cup is filled to the brim nothing else can fit into it. That’s like the infamous straw that broke the camel’s back. Just one more thing happening to you when your cup is full could throw you completely out of whack. On the other hand if you consciously left a bit of room at the top for the unexpected (BS) it would be like bracing up when you knew someone was going to hit you in your stomach.
In a sense I expect the unexpected to happen in life. When it does I have room in my cup to receive it. I leave x-amount in my capacity for BS so when it inevitably happens I just shuck it off instead of getting all bent out of shape. This is a conscious daily practice.
When people do unexpected things or act in ways that are contrary to my ideal they no longer throw me completely off my game. When something I hoped for does not materialize as I had hoped I am no longer as devastated. Even though I keep a positive mental attitude in general, I try to leave enough room for the unexpected.
We are not superior to life. We are merely having our being inside this game of life. Expecting the unexpected, the unplanned and unwanted, leaves room in your cup.
Although we may hope that our incoming match our outpouring… that is not always the case with life. When things don’t happen according to our expectations we are free to let it go and move forward. By leaving room in our cup for the unexpected it is much easier to let go, forgive, or just press ahead with a positive mental attitude. Some refer to this as “Letting go and letting God.”
Try this practice as conscious awareness. Teach yourself to expect the unexpected. Keep enough head-room in your cup so some of those small things do not become really, really huge things. Be at peace with yourself so you can be at peace with the world around you. Constantly do things that take the edge off the top in order that you may have the extra head-space.
Leave room for cream. Leave some room for the inevitable BS that life tosses your way. If you do this you might become a much more peaceful person. In doing so the world will usually reflect back what it senses coming from you. Leave room in your cup for cream.
You coffee drinkers out there may have been asked by the attendant serving your freshly brewed cup of coffee; “Room for cream?” Rather than filling the cup all the way up to the brim they might ask if you want to leave room on top in order to add condiments to spruce up your coffee.
In that light I share my concept of dealing with many things that we allow to add unnecessary stress into our lives. As you may realize by now, life happens! When least expected certain things happen that throw us off our game. They seemingly come out of nowhere. Such is the nature of life.
Even though we might plan as much as possible for “what could happen,” inevitably things will happen that we didn’t plan for nor expect. Since they catch us with our guard down we are impacted more forcefully than if we were prepared. It is one thing to get hit hard when you are expecting to take a blow but another one when it catches you totally by surprise.
If someone hit you in your stomach while you were braced to receive the blow it would not impact you as badly as if you were hit with no advance warning. This is what life does to us occasionally. It hits us with things when we least expect them. Consequently, we are not prepared. For this very reason I suggest that you “leave room in your cup for BS. (I’ll let you define BS.)
Imagine that you are a cup with a certain capacity. Once your cup is filled to the brim nothing else can fit into it. That’s like the infamous straw that broke the camel’s back. Just one more thing happening to you when your cup is full could throw you completely out of whack. On the other hand if you consciously left a bit of room at the top for the unexpected (BS) it would be like bracing up when you knew someone was going to hit you in your stomach.
In a sense I expect the unexpected to happen in life. When it does I have room in my cup to receive it. I leave x-amount in my capacity for BS so when it inevitably happens I just shuck it off instead of getting all bent out of shape. This is a conscious daily practice.
When people do unexpected things or act in ways that are contrary to my ideal they no longer throw me completely off my game. When something I hoped for does not materialize as I had hoped I am no longer as devastated. Even though I keep a positive mental attitude in general, I try to leave enough room for the unexpected.
We are not superior to life. We are merely having our being inside this game of life. Expecting the unexpected, the unplanned and unwanted, leaves room in your cup.
Although we may hope that our incoming match our outpouring… that is not always the case with life. When things don’t happen according to our expectations we are free to let it go and move forward. By leaving room in our cup for the unexpected it is much easier to let go, forgive, or just press ahead with a positive mental attitude. Some refer to this as “Letting go and letting God.”
Try this practice as conscious awareness. Teach yourself to expect the unexpected. Keep enough head-room in your cup so some of those small things do not become really, really huge things. Be at peace with yourself so you can be at peace with the world around you. Constantly do things that take the edge off the top in order that you may have the extra head-space.
Leave room for cream. Leave some room for the inevitable BS that life tosses your way. If you do this you might become a much more peaceful person. In doing so the world will usually reflect back what it senses coming from you. Leave room in your cup for cream.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Where Are We Now?
Occasionally you can feel a sense of the passage of time. There have been many incidents that placed bookmarks in the pages history so we could remember where we were then. As you age certainly there are more marks to remember simple because you lived that long.
Think back over the past decade at the incident stands out the brightest. I suppose for many of us that would be the tragedy of 9/11 event. For others it could be the election of America’s first African-American President. Even though there were many more notable events these two stands out quite vividly.
Go back to the decade of the 90s, what stands out the most? Perhaps the scandal of our President with what’s her name stands out? During the 80s we had a boom in the housing market with interest rates as high as 19%. The 70s was the dance fever, disco, and a shifting of racial currents after the turbulent 60s. Of course the 60s was the assassination of the Kennedy brothers, MLK, and several civil rights leaders, along with the Vietnam War. This was certainly an age of revolution against the status-quo establishment.
To go back any further would precede most of you, but I think the point has been made about how time seems to have many notable bookmarks that keeps us conscious of its movement. I am one of the baby-boomers of the 40s with the last World War and my parents could go back even further to the Great Depression of the 1930s. Each decade has at least one shinning bookmark.
As we get ready to enter the second decade of the 21st Century I wonder what’s in store for us. Currently we are in one of the greatest financial recessions since the Great Depression. Could a recovery out of these bad times be a coming bookmark?
Will we enter into a new age of green technology essentially ousting the combustive engines that have been killing our planet for over a hundred years? Will we finally get sick enough of partisan politics and let the politicians know whom they work for? Will people finally wake up and began to understand that we are the ones that must bring in the change we want to experience, otherwise we must rely upon the darker days to bookmark this time for us.
Time and history are not all that particular about what they record. Whatever we give is recorded and stored indelibly in their annals. On the other hand as conscious being we have the ability to look ahead and plant seeds that can grow into good things. The seeds we are planting today will produce the fruit that will be gathered tomorrow. That brings a question to mind; what type of seeds are we planting?
In this day of rapid technological advancements certainly our society should be more transparent? If only we open our eyes we would see what goes on behind the scenes much better than we could see before. The days of back-door politics and under-handed dealings should be out. Devious people used to do their dastardly deeds in private and the people were forced to deal with their stuff. It doesn’t have to be that way now.
We shouldn’t continue fall for the stranglehold the gas companies have over us. We should find a way to end the political wars we are fighting for the interest of some pie-in-the-sky, deep, secret, hidden agenda. We should spend our available funds in order to re-build our infrastructure rather than spending one more dime on anyone’s war? We could easily calculate the total daily cost of fighting both wars we are currently fighting and see what this country could do with that much money by putting it back into our system. We must stop the bleeding before we can rebuild.
Think about this!
Where in the hell are we?
If we are not planting seeds that we know will produce good fruit then we are vulnerable to the dark days that will certainly bookmark this very time we are passing through. Do we need another tragedy to remember the second decade of the 21st century? Dare we consciously do something positive that could be remembered for the next few hundred years?
Certainly the fact that we elected our first African-American President will be remembered for a long time, but the jury is still out on what his legacy will become.
We can come together as the people of these United States and finish a great mark in history as was proclaimed by the crafters of our nation. Or, we can place just another dark stain on history as we have done in the past. We can come together as people and do what is right and decent for the sake of the country and for our future, or, we can continue to do as we have always done, business as usual. What will it be folks; the call is ours.
Where are we now?
Perhaps a better question is:
Where do we want to be?
Think back over the past decade at the incident stands out the brightest. I suppose for many of us that would be the tragedy of 9/11 event. For others it could be the election of America’s first African-American President. Even though there were many more notable events these two stands out quite vividly.
Go back to the decade of the 90s, what stands out the most? Perhaps the scandal of our President with what’s her name stands out? During the 80s we had a boom in the housing market with interest rates as high as 19%. The 70s was the dance fever, disco, and a shifting of racial currents after the turbulent 60s. Of course the 60s was the assassination of the Kennedy brothers, MLK, and several civil rights leaders, along with the Vietnam War. This was certainly an age of revolution against the status-quo establishment.
To go back any further would precede most of you, but I think the point has been made about how time seems to have many notable bookmarks that keeps us conscious of its movement. I am one of the baby-boomers of the 40s with the last World War and my parents could go back even further to the Great Depression of the 1930s. Each decade has at least one shinning bookmark.
As we get ready to enter the second decade of the 21st Century I wonder what’s in store for us. Currently we are in one of the greatest financial recessions since the Great Depression. Could a recovery out of these bad times be a coming bookmark?
Will we enter into a new age of green technology essentially ousting the combustive engines that have been killing our planet for over a hundred years? Will we finally get sick enough of partisan politics and let the politicians know whom they work for? Will people finally wake up and began to understand that we are the ones that must bring in the change we want to experience, otherwise we must rely upon the darker days to bookmark this time for us.
Time and history are not all that particular about what they record. Whatever we give is recorded and stored indelibly in their annals. On the other hand as conscious being we have the ability to look ahead and plant seeds that can grow into good things. The seeds we are planting today will produce the fruit that will be gathered tomorrow. That brings a question to mind; what type of seeds are we planting?
In this day of rapid technological advancements certainly our society should be more transparent? If only we open our eyes we would see what goes on behind the scenes much better than we could see before. The days of back-door politics and under-handed dealings should be out. Devious people used to do their dastardly deeds in private and the people were forced to deal with their stuff. It doesn’t have to be that way now.
We shouldn’t continue fall for the stranglehold the gas companies have over us. We should find a way to end the political wars we are fighting for the interest of some pie-in-the-sky, deep, secret, hidden agenda. We should spend our available funds in order to re-build our infrastructure rather than spending one more dime on anyone’s war? We could easily calculate the total daily cost of fighting both wars we are currently fighting and see what this country could do with that much money by putting it back into our system. We must stop the bleeding before we can rebuild.
Think about this!
Where in the hell are we?
If we are not planting seeds that we know will produce good fruit then we are vulnerable to the dark days that will certainly bookmark this very time we are passing through. Do we need another tragedy to remember the second decade of the 21st century? Dare we consciously do something positive that could be remembered for the next few hundred years?
Certainly the fact that we elected our first African-American President will be remembered for a long time, but the jury is still out on what his legacy will become.
We can come together as the people of these United States and finish a great mark in history as was proclaimed by the crafters of our nation. Or, we can place just another dark stain on history as we have done in the past. We can come together as people and do what is right and decent for the sake of the country and for our future, or, we can continue to do as we have always done, business as usual. What will it be folks; the call is ours.
Where are we now?
Perhaps a better question is:
Where do we want to be?
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Life is an Illusion and Somewhat Delusional
Although this blog deal primarily with male issues, this one is for all.
Have you noticed that life is rarely what it appears to be on the surface? Most of it was intended to make you dig under the surface of things in order to find its true meaning. For this reason most go through their lives in somewhat of a fog. This is because they don’t care to work that hard for wisdom. Wisdom is usually hidden in plain view because of the delusion that life depicts.
Too bad we are not like the fowl that know instinctively to dig under the straw in order to find their goodies. If we had such an outlook about life we would certainly find the most precious of goods right before our very eyes; however, because we focus on the delusion of things, we don’t see what is right there. We live primarily upon perceptions and assumptions. Under this façade is the reality.
Behind thing that are seen there are the unseen forces that causes the seen things to appear. Beyond the physical existence are powers and forces at the spiritual and even the physical subatomic level that are unseen to the naked eye. By the time you physically see things happen the cause has already passed through the seen vortex.
When we see the leaves move on a tree it is after the wind has passed through it. When we experience one of nature’s storms it is after the cause has created the effect. In a similar way there are mostly unseen forces in the universe that creates the seen outcomes.
If you go about your normal day making critical judgments based upon what is revealed rather than probing deeper into what caused the revelation you are at least one step behind what “IS.” That alone is not a problem for us. But our unawareness of the initial causes can be a problem for us. It is like working on the sickness rather than the cause. An aspirin works on the symptom but not the cause.
Headaches are our body’s way of telling our minds that something is wrong within our body’s system. If you merely take the pain reliever without exploring what the body may be telling you the problem may be still hidden within. If you had too much to drink the night before and have a bad headache the next morning chances are you know the cause. In this case the aspirin should do the trick to relieve the pain until the alcohol passes through your system. If you choose to drink too much the next day perhaps you didn’t learn a lesson (wisdom) from the headache. If you continue to do so the body may choose to breakdown in another way like a liver or kidney problem.
As we experience the unwanted things of life we need to try to use our invisible eyes rather than the visible ones. The cause is usually hidden in plain view but often we are not looking just under the surface of things. Behind every action there is a cause. If you want to make changes try looking beyond the action into the cause. Be like the fowl that realizes how much goodies are hidden just under the surface. Make this a regular practice.
Don’t live in the delusion merely following the illusion that life reveals. It wants you to dig deeper where true wisdom is stored. Open your spiritual eyes and stop allowing your physical eyesight to rule your mind. “Be in control over the mind.”
This is food for thought for those who seek. May those with eyes to see and ears to hear receive this message.
Have you noticed that life is rarely what it appears to be on the surface? Most of it was intended to make you dig under the surface of things in order to find its true meaning. For this reason most go through their lives in somewhat of a fog. This is because they don’t care to work that hard for wisdom. Wisdom is usually hidden in plain view because of the delusion that life depicts.
Too bad we are not like the fowl that know instinctively to dig under the straw in order to find their goodies. If we had such an outlook about life we would certainly find the most precious of goods right before our very eyes; however, because we focus on the delusion of things, we don’t see what is right there. We live primarily upon perceptions and assumptions. Under this façade is the reality.
Behind thing that are seen there are the unseen forces that causes the seen things to appear. Beyond the physical existence are powers and forces at the spiritual and even the physical subatomic level that are unseen to the naked eye. By the time you physically see things happen the cause has already passed through the seen vortex.
When we see the leaves move on a tree it is after the wind has passed through it. When we experience one of nature’s storms it is after the cause has created the effect. In a similar way there are mostly unseen forces in the universe that creates the seen outcomes.
If you go about your normal day making critical judgments based upon what is revealed rather than probing deeper into what caused the revelation you are at least one step behind what “IS.” That alone is not a problem for us. But our unawareness of the initial causes can be a problem for us. It is like working on the sickness rather than the cause. An aspirin works on the symptom but not the cause.
Headaches are our body’s way of telling our minds that something is wrong within our body’s system. If you merely take the pain reliever without exploring what the body may be telling you the problem may be still hidden within. If you had too much to drink the night before and have a bad headache the next morning chances are you know the cause. In this case the aspirin should do the trick to relieve the pain until the alcohol passes through your system. If you choose to drink too much the next day perhaps you didn’t learn a lesson (wisdom) from the headache. If you continue to do so the body may choose to breakdown in another way like a liver or kidney problem.
As we experience the unwanted things of life we need to try to use our invisible eyes rather than the visible ones. The cause is usually hidden in plain view but often we are not looking just under the surface of things. Behind every action there is a cause. If you want to make changes try looking beyond the action into the cause. Be like the fowl that realizes how much goodies are hidden just under the surface. Make this a regular practice.
Don’t live in the delusion merely following the illusion that life reveals. It wants you to dig deeper where true wisdom is stored. Open your spiritual eyes and stop allowing your physical eyesight to rule your mind. “Be in control over the mind.”
This is food for thought for those who seek. May those with eyes to see and ears to hear receive this message.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
NOW IS ALL THERE IS
There is no better time than the present to do the things that need to be done. The habit of procrastination is one that is very hard to break once it becomes a part of your core being. Most habits take a considerable amount of time to develop and at least that much or more time to break them.
In truth we don’t usually need the amount of time that we think in order to break our habits. Most of the time we spend by way of getting things done is spent on overcoming procrastination. It is like having a roadblock in the mind. Once the mind is in gear to go forward then time is no longer our enemy. When you do things in the NOW moments time is not your obstacle.
How does one learn how to break the tendency of procrastination? Like all things you develop in life you need to make it a constant practice. Each day give yourself a chore to do and see if you can do it immediately, at the moment you think about it. If you are lying in bed in the morning and there is a chill in the air… tell yourself to get up immediately and do it immediately. Or, tell yourself to get up five minutes before the time you originally set… do it on an impulse. Do something spontaneously without giving yourself the time to talk yourself out of doing it. These are just a few examples of ways you can practice breaking the habit of procrastination.
Once you become a proactive person rather than a reactive one you will be surprised at what you can accomplish. Most highly successful people are the ones that live actively with life rather than re-actively. They create the action, albeit good or bad, and just do it! They are the ones in charge rather than waiting on others to make the first move. Most highly successful people have found a way to overcome procrastination.
In fact, most ordinary people do not reach a fraction of their potential because they cannot make themselves do what must, or needs to be done, just when it needs to be done. There is usually much more in the “potential tank” than most utilize. Once you overcome the habit of procrastination you will inevitably climb up the ladder of your potential. You will learn to burn more of the fuel in your tank.
Learning to live in and with the current moment is something that we all could do much better. In order to do so we must somehow learn to overcome our own demons. We are at war with ourselves much more than we care to admit. The main battleground is in your mind.
The world is not really holding you back. The system is not really holding you back. People are not responsible for holding you back. We are our own worst enemy. We have to learn how to overcome the hurdle of our own mind. When we win the battle over the “self” is when we are free to reach our highest potential. NOW is the only time that matters. Not a while ago and certainly not in the future. Do what you know needs to be done in the NOW!
The past is eternally gone and the future has not yet arrived, NOW is really all there is. That’s a fact and your truth!
In truth we don’t usually need the amount of time that we think in order to break our habits. Most of the time we spend by way of getting things done is spent on overcoming procrastination. It is like having a roadblock in the mind. Once the mind is in gear to go forward then time is no longer our enemy. When you do things in the NOW moments time is not your obstacle.
How does one learn how to break the tendency of procrastination? Like all things you develop in life you need to make it a constant practice. Each day give yourself a chore to do and see if you can do it immediately, at the moment you think about it. If you are lying in bed in the morning and there is a chill in the air… tell yourself to get up immediately and do it immediately. Or, tell yourself to get up five minutes before the time you originally set… do it on an impulse. Do something spontaneously without giving yourself the time to talk yourself out of doing it. These are just a few examples of ways you can practice breaking the habit of procrastination.
Once you become a proactive person rather than a reactive one you will be surprised at what you can accomplish. Most highly successful people are the ones that live actively with life rather than re-actively. They create the action, albeit good or bad, and just do it! They are the ones in charge rather than waiting on others to make the first move. Most highly successful people have found a way to overcome procrastination.
In fact, most ordinary people do not reach a fraction of their potential because they cannot make themselves do what must, or needs to be done, just when it needs to be done. There is usually much more in the “potential tank” than most utilize. Once you overcome the habit of procrastination you will inevitably climb up the ladder of your potential. You will learn to burn more of the fuel in your tank.
Learning to live in and with the current moment is something that we all could do much better. In order to do so we must somehow learn to overcome our own demons. We are at war with ourselves much more than we care to admit. The main battleground is in your mind.
The world is not really holding you back. The system is not really holding you back. People are not responsible for holding you back. We are our own worst enemy. We have to learn how to overcome the hurdle of our own mind. When we win the battle over the “self” is when we are free to reach our highest potential. NOW is the only time that matters. Not a while ago and certainly not in the future. Do what you know needs to be done in the NOW!
The past is eternally gone and the future has not yet arrived, NOW is really all there is. That’s a fact and your truth!
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Recolor the World's Picture
I find myself looking at the news and almost instantly getting somewhat depressed at the condition of mankind. It appears that we are in a “hellhole” waiting on the final wall to crumble down over us, finally taking us out of our misery.
The economy is down, crime is up, people are loosing their homes, no jobs to be found, schools are failing, we’re fighting two wars, soldiers are dying, alcohol and drug abuse on the rise; God is being taken out of homes, families and workplaces, road rage on the rise, workplace rage, and the overall picture we see daily is very gloomy. Is that the state of the human condition? Is that the image the world portrays?
If this picture is drilled into our minds each day then eventually we will start believing that it's almost worthless to leave our homes. If things were that bad why even bother? I for one refuse to accept such a gloomy picture. Even though things are very bad in many areas of life, I refuse to give up hope.
There is a lot of good in the world, but that is not what sells through the media. I understand that only bad news sells; not only that, it also paints the image that most people perceive. I say to each of you, recolor your picture!
What we believe to be true has a lot of influence upon how we operate. If you have a negative outlook on life that has an effect upon you just as well as if you have a positive one. Both paint the world you see. Are you willing to allow the news media to tell you how to paint your picture of the world?
In truth there are many great news stories. There are tons of people doing incredible and charitable things, but they usually don’t make the headlines. If you want good news you have to go out and find it for yourself. If you can’t find it easily then why not become the star of your news show and make your own good news story. Try doing something incredibly kind and nice for someone and feature it on your show.
This may not be good advice of each of you, but my suggestion would be to turn off the news for a while. You know it’s going to be gloomy so why punish yourself. Why allow them to paint the picture for you knowing that it will be gloomy? If you consume too much negativity your system will eventually become what you consume. Likewise when you feed your system positive thoughts your system will respond to that kind of input.
I encourage all of you to take back the picture that is being painted for you. We know all those bad things happen, but we do not have to swim in it. We don’t have to allow those thoughts prevail in our minds as our main source of mind-food. Become actively involved in either finding good news or making it. Help someone in need, feed a hungry person or family, help someone who is in distress, do something to save the natural resources, join the green healthy planet movement, teach a child, or there are about a gazillion positive things you can do if you set your mind to it.
Don’t allow Big Brother to tell you what image to accept as the world’s picture. It takes only one bad apple to spoil a whole bunch. For the most part people are not as bad as you think. Out of one hundred people more than 85% will be decent. 10% will be vulnerable to negative behavior and about the remaining 5% may be bad, with only 1% of those being hopeless. I just made up these statistics, but when you think about it, the bad news is committed by a very small percentage of the population. Why allow them to paint the entire picture when they are only a small segment of our population? Re-color your picture of the world. I beg of you!
The economy is down, crime is up, people are loosing their homes, no jobs to be found, schools are failing, we’re fighting two wars, soldiers are dying, alcohol and drug abuse on the rise; God is being taken out of homes, families and workplaces, road rage on the rise, workplace rage, and the overall picture we see daily is very gloomy. Is that the state of the human condition? Is that the image the world portrays?
If this picture is drilled into our minds each day then eventually we will start believing that it's almost worthless to leave our homes. If things were that bad why even bother? I for one refuse to accept such a gloomy picture. Even though things are very bad in many areas of life, I refuse to give up hope.
There is a lot of good in the world, but that is not what sells through the media. I understand that only bad news sells; not only that, it also paints the image that most people perceive. I say to each of you, recolor your picture!
What we believe to be true has a lot of influence upon how we operate. If you have a negative outlook on life that has an effect upon you just as well as if you have a positive one. Both paint the world you see. Are you willing to allow the news media to tell you how to paint your picture of the world?
In truth there are many great news stories. There are tons of people doing incredible and charitable things, but they usually don’t make the headlines. If you want good news you have to go out and find it for yourself. If you can’t find it easily then why not become the star of your news show and make your own good news story. Try doing something incredibly kind and nice for someone and feature it on your show.
This may not be good advice of each of you, but my suggestion would be to turn off the news for a while. You know it’s going to be gloomy so why punish yourself. Why allow them to paint the picture for you knowing that it will be gloomy? If you consume too much negativity your system will eventually become what you consume. Likewise when you feed your system positive thoughts your system will respond to that kind of input.
I encourage all of you to take back the picture that is being painted for you. We know all those bad things happen, but we do not have to swim in it. We don’t have to allow those thoughts prevail in our minds as our main source of mind-food. Become actively involved in either finding good news or making it. Help someone in need, feed a hungry person or family, help someone who is in distress, do something to save the natural resources, join the green healthy planet movement, teach a child, or there are about a gazillion positive things you can do if you set your mind to it.
Don’t allow Big Brother to tell you what image to accept as the world’s picture. It takes only one bad apple to spoil a whole bunch. For the most part people are not as bad as you think. Out of one hundred people more than 85% will be decent. 10% will be vulnerable to negative behavior and about the remaining 5% may be bad, with only 1% of those being hopeless. I just made up these statistics, but when you think about it, the bad news is committed by a very small percentage of the population. Why allow them to paint the entire picture when they are only a small segment of our population? Re-color your picture of the world. I beg of you!
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